1. You seek their company (spend time with them)
2. You talk for hours (talking and listening)
3. You pray for them
4. You think about them
5. You become best friends
6. You discuss issues of life
7. You have a servant’s heart about them
**You will love the ones you seek out.**
When what you do becomes a habit or duty, the love wanes.
Stated above is a list that was made in my small group at Church.
I realized that I do love people (friends) but I don’t do all that is required for loving someone. I also realized that the ex that I am still in love with, I remember him mentioning how talking to me became a habit and maybe that’s why he quit loving me. We would talk for hours but we didn’t spend any time together, physically. I claimed he was my best friend but I wasn’t his towards the end. I’m slacking in my duties to my friends that I love.
But this works with any relationship that you have: parents, friends, siblings, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, grandparents, mentor, etc.
Do you feel as if this list is correct? Would you add anything else to it? Comment below on your thoughts.